We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9
Are you ready for the challenges life will bring you as you grow into adulthood and maturity? How old do you have to be in order to face and defeat the giant of the unknown? What will it take for you to be successful?
These are questions teenagers are troubled with. Many doubt their capability to pursue higher grounds. They settle for much less than they can achieve and live life wondering all the “ifs.”
The truth is that it does not matter how old you are, challenges will always come your way. How you ready yourself for what is to come matters. It’s not a matter of “if” you will face challenges. They will come whether you like it or not. So what do you need to know in order to be able to handle your challenges successfully?
1- Challenges are real, but you are not alone
Teenagers have lots of challenges in their path. Unfortunately, some teenagers have to figure out what to do next on their own due to a lack of parental involvement. Then they receive all the blame when their choices are not the best ones. So if you are one in the other group of teenagers who receive parental guidance, say a big “Amen!”
If you are a Christian, you have the most powerful tool to help you ready yourself for the future. God said that He would never abandon you. His Holy Spirit will lead you to ideas of what you can do later in life. He will use opportunities for you to discover your talents and experience new fields that you might enjoy. His guidance might also come in the shape of a parent’s or a friend’s advice.
If developing friendship becomes an issue for you, you may consider putting yourself in someone else’s shoes and evaluating if the treatment you are giving them is what you would like to receive from them. You may find that others also feel alone.
2- Your reasoning is powerful
Choose to study or do something that you enjoy doing already or that you think you will enjoy. For example, it may sound like a big challenge for you to go to Nursing school, but if you like to care for others around you and don’t mind dealing with blood, it might be the way to go. On the other hand, if you are not good in math, forcing yourself into an Engineering school may be signing up for frustration.
In the case of dealing with relationships, never get into one to prove anything to anybody. Your life is valuable. Don’t put it in jeopardy. Anger may instigate you to use hurtful ways to prove your point and establish you as an individual, but that will end in sorrow and regrets that you will never be able to delete from your life.
Share your frustrations with your parents or someone you trust (an experienced, sound adult, please!), who can actually help you evaluate the best decision to make.
3- “Fitness” is important
Don’t look at me with rolling eyes if you hate exercising. At your age, I had a problem with it too.
Being “fit” at your age means more than exercising daily. It is also a matter of attitude. You may think that you are not qualified to face a certain challenge, but your attitude towards it will determine how well you will handle the victory or the defeat. You need to keep your eyes focused on the “later” rather than “now”.
Learn to be teachable. Listen more than speak. Ponder your choices in your heart instead of trying to find ways to excuse yourself. Self-control is a powerful tool that will define your route. Don’t try to look like the other girls; just be yourself. Live a healthy life from the very beginning and enjoy the result of it.
4- Know your limitations
It may be hard to believe, but it is so true. You can’t do it all. Sometimes you will get to moments in life when you have to give up something. Trust God to be in the gap for you when you don’t know what to do. Share your concern with your parents and listen to what they have to say. They have more experience dealing with limitations than you can imagine!
High school is not a ten-headed monster as long as you don’t anticipate the fears and anxiety of college years. Live one day at a time. After each triumph you will feel more confident. You will realize that the giants in high school become smaller once you empower yourself to overcome them.
God made you more than a conqueror already. Never forget that!