“For it is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret. But everything exposed by the light becomes visible, for everything that is illuminated becomes a light itself.” Ephesians 5:12-14
Someone said once, “It’s a good thing that parents only have two eyes”. I bet you it was a teenager who came up with that.
Being a teenager is fun, let’s be honest. Fun? No, it’s actually a LOT of fun for many teenagers.
Part of the fun is to be able to try something different than a kid’s meal, visiting different places without having to be under the ties of mom or dad’s eyes, being able to comment on different topics feeling like an expert at times. You make a little money helping here and there, and you become eligible to learn another life skill: money management. There’s nothing like going shopping to prove your “money management” skills!
That’s the first taste of what will one day become part of a real life adult situation.
However, more challenges will come with the “get ready for adulthood” package. It’s not a joke. It can be a life changing experience.
As teenagers, we are usually looking for the different things, for the excitement, for what is appealing to our peers and for what is going viral. Many teenagers don’t understand, though, that some of these temptations are just deceitful tools used by the devil and his angels to entice them in paths that may not have a way out.
Usually that will happen when friends try to persuade you in doing things that will be contrary to your parents’ values and principles, which will probably also be against God’s will and standards for your life.
It’s not by chance that God put parents or other loving people in authority over us during this critical phase in life. They play a very important role in guiding us and making sure that we will be well equipped to walk on our own feet and make responsible decisions in case they are not around.
That takes time. And it may not always feel pleasurable for those on that trail. Patience and humility are required from all parties for this relationship to be successful. Once you reach a more mature phase and look back and can count the chances you had to fail, and that instead you chose to follow the advice of those in charge, therefore attaining success, then you know that you gave God the glory.
“And this is the verdict: The Light has come into the world, but men loved darkness more than light, because their deeds were evil. Everyone who does evil hates the Light, and does not come into the Light for fear that his deeds will be exposed. But whoever practices the truth comes into the Light, so that it may be clearly seen that what he has done has been accomplished in God.” John 3:19-20
This is your task. Nobody else can do it for you. You will have to fight the temptation of doing things that will dishonor your parents. If your parents can’t find out what you are doing it is probably because you should not be doing it at all. You will put yourself in big trouble, if not create irreparable damage to your life and future.
Be bold to stand for what is right and produce life, not destruction. Have an open relationship with your parents and ask them their opinion before you get into doing what looks “cool” but sounds inappropriate or doubtful.
Your parents’ experiences may tell you things that you may not like to hear at first, but their wisdom may spare you a lifetime of regrets.
If your parents are not your best source for wisdom because their choices are bad, then you should find a trustful older person who will be able to speak truth and wisdom into your life. Living a good life may have a different meaning to different people, but in God’s perspective it has to be for His glory and honor. That is the unfailing way to eternal success.
Will you take the challenge?