The world of photography has advanced to a new level. It has never been easier for a girl to become the center of attention in her own photo. Welcome to the selfie generation! But what do your photos say about you?
First of all, you don’t need to be a celebrity or have parents who live off a fat bank account in order to get a marvelous photo of yourself. Thanks to advanced technology and the almost unthinkable apps and softwares available today, you can look like those superstars in famous magazines. It’s that “get ready and go” kind of situation; social media and the world are waiting for you.
What many girls have not understood about this social media frenzy is that it has become almost impossible not to over promote yourself on Facebook or Instagram nowadays.
What do selfies reveal?
Every teenage girl wants to express her emotions and personality through her selfies. It’s a daily competition with her peers to see who has the cutest facial expression, the best filter ideas, or the most comic spurt of the day, besides checking on who is getting the highest number of likes and “important” comments. Consequently, her decision on how to expose herself in the next pictures will be determined by the number of likes and comments she gained on previous ones.
And here is where the problem resides. Life has left its privacy and has gone public in a matter of a click. It does not matter how serious, silly, or sensual one may look; the selfie generation has entered mined ground and unadvisedly rushed as prey into a lion’s den since then.
Your worth should not be based on the things you expose on a photo, but on who you are when all your devices are off.
Many teenage girls have lost their dignity and their lives for showing too much in photos and, consequently, gained unwanted attention from creepy and evil men who have been searching for their next victim.
Research by Pew Research Center shows that “Teen social media users do not express a high level of concern about third-party access to their data; only 9% say they are ‘very’ concerned.” What does that mean if you are amongst those who are not concerned? It means that whatever you post on social media platforms can be seen by thousands of people who are not related to you in any possible way, who may be feeding themselves information to decide on whom to attack next. This is not a joke! It’s serious stuff!
Is this tragic? It can become and it has become for some girls. It seems like there is not enough concern in how to avoid it. Could it have been avoided? Yes is my answer, but I will let you use your reasoning to answer for yourself. Can I trust you on that?
So here is what we do:
I have contacted a few girls who have posted “doubtful” selfies and tried to help them evaluate the amount of information they were giving away on social media. Thank God a few of them cared about their lives and respectfully accepted my advice. They may not have done anything to change the situation had I not pointed it out to them. Other girls decided to ignore my counsel. I fear for them and pray that they will listen to someone else.
In addition to that, sometimes parents are not aware of what is going on in your social media sharing activity. Asking them to be engaged may sound a stretch since they should see that as their responsibility, right? What if they don’t? Would you boldly ask them to help you evaluate the amount of information you are displaying for the world to see before you do it? Couldn’t that be a great way to make conversation with them?
Another point you should consider is that we all need real friends who love us for who we are and are bold to step up and alert us from excessive exposure. Do you have a friend like that? Can you be one of these bold and trustworthy friends to alert your peers in love, so they won’t have to experience the pain and danger that has taken away many of our kids… forever?
This is what the Bible says:
“But speaking the truth in love, let us grow in every way into Him who is the head—Christ.” Ephesians 4:15
Finally, let your photos reveal to the world what God has called you to be: a light that displays God’s glory so others will also know Him intimately.
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do”. (Ephesians 2:10)